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Should You Stay With Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Marry You?

Your goal isn't to “convince” him that he should want to get married. Your goal is twofold: to understand why he doesn't want to get married (and potentially counter his emotional arguments with rational points) AND to explain to him that you do want to get married and how it feels when you hear he doesn't. I know you're going to say: “Why didn't you pay attention to the negatives?” I can honestly say I didn't realize at that point that it mattered to me. I'm fairly young ( late 20s) and it is just beginning to dawn on me that I'd like to get married. Now I realize how much I do want to get married to the person I love. He still doesn't. More time and resources wasted. Because this man doesn't think you are The One. He doesn't want to make a lifetime commitment to you. If he did, he would have about six years ago. And that is the honest to God, unvarnished truth. A man who is serious about marrying you will almost always propose between 18 months.

Have you ever dated a man who fulfilled every quality on your mental checklist?

Sorry Evan, I dislike when someone says things like this. You act like a single woman with kids should not expect serious commitment from a guy. It makes me less needy and anxy and allows him to come to me and initiate all the contacts. Sometimes you just have to sacrifice your own needs in order to lend someone else a helping hand, right?

To you, he is virtually flawless. And who am I to argue? Your condition is universal. Thousands of songs have been written about unrequited love, and they all have the same unhappy ending. Because, to you, it beats the alternative: Somehow, you would rather give your love to a man who has no intentions of marrying you …than to free yourself up to search for the man who WILL one day marry you.

You undoubtedly recognize it. You like the man who is more unavailable. You respect him more. And yet you never know where you stand with him.

It works the same way for men. The woman who declares her love on date 1 will scare the hell out of him.

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The woman who makes him work for it a little bit will be the one who wins his heart. Flirty but not too easy. Authentic but not saying everything on your mind.

Relationship-oriented but not pushing for commitment too soon. The idea behind this is not to create an unequal relationship where he praises the ground you walk on and you have absolutely no respect for him.

My client, Melissa, is a thirtysomething doctor in South Florida. She came to me two months ago, burned out on dating, frustrated by Match. They met on Match and have been together for about a month. His very UN availability is part of what makes him so attractive. The moral of the story is NOT to find some wishy-washy guy who puts you on a pedestal.

You know I really love this blog but Evan, with this post, you seem to be feeding into the rhetoric I see posted all over relationship forums for men. The last two guys that treated me well I really would have loved for things to work out however, even though both showed devotion they also both had deal breakers that made me throw in the towel.

Point by point, I am this woman. Time to do some soul searching and then to update my profile, pic, and get back on Match. Nothing like finding a mirror in a blog. Nothing like being prodded out of a complicated safety found in hiding out, focusing on the wrong guy and spending so much time puzzling over how he could possibly let me get away.

Time to start being the chooser instead learn more here waiting to be chosen.

It hurt like hell, but I know my worth and wanted to make myself emotionally available for a guy who will see a future with me and want to marry me. I agree with Wispera! Most women appreciate good men who treat them well, but have usually not been able to find a man that will make the effort to show her that she is important to him.

The type of man that makes this type of effort to show a woman his appreciation is a rare find. This does Not mean that a woman should tolerate being disrespected by an emotionally unavailable man, but it may explain why SOME women unfortunately feel the need to hold on to whatever man they have. Evan offers some good advice in this article about the type of standards a woman should have when choosing a man, but his is advice is overshadowed a bit, by what seems to be his own bitterness and hurt from bad experience he may have had by a woman that did not appreciate him at some point.

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We are Not all the same. I ditched a man who was never there for me, who loved me conditionally and now am meeting other people. I can look for a challenge elsewhere, in my career or personal life.

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Honesty is the best policy. If they still want to be friends after that, fine. If not, no big deal. Been there, done that in my 20s. For the first three weeks everything went like it should in a relationship. Then she stopped making time for dates. It started taking days for her to respond to emails and voicemails.

At Phobe 7, I agree that I could not want all the men that wanted me. I believe his point is that women should not be hung up on a man who does not want them. We need to focus our attention and energy on the men who we want, but that mutually want us back.

If that man cannot reciprocate the feelings, then it is pointless and a waste of your time.

I wonder if it would work. For this reason, cohabitating does not decrease the chance of divorce. Her trust in him?

What does that mean, want? I find that most of the men who I date who initially want me, want me more when I am a challenge. When I make myself more accessible the want wanes. I must say that in the 50 men I have dated in one year, they all seem to be either needy, weird, narcissistic, moody, arrogant or some form of entitled. The thrill of the hunt, the conquest and then moving on. This can frequently result in an emotional letdown for the one who plots and plans as opposed to one who allows the relationship to naturally progress.

I heard from a woman who was so in love with an emotionally unavailable guy, that she tried for YEARS to win him over. Had no interest in anyone else. Eventually, he did marry her. Like a spell was broken or something. I hear ya, sister! Then again, I only need to meet the one who will. How do I want the man that wants me? This guy wanted me bad, so I thought I would give him a chance.

He is 42 and also never married. I have compromised alot and put alot of work into this relationship, as he has. But I needed to break my bad boy dating rut I was in and this guy was really sweet and unlike anyone I have ever dated. This topic sparked my interest…do I look for someonelse that wants me more, enough to marry me. Of the hundreds or thousands of men in the dating pool, how are you consistently ending up with the muck at the bottom?

But 50 losers in a row is too much to be a statistical anomoly. You may want to reevaluate how you choose which men to date. You make an excellent point. Although it often continue reading like we need a catalyzing event catching him cheating, etc.

Best of luck to you. Countless articles, including a few that Evan has linked to from OkCupid! To top it off, if Nancy is an African-American or a Euro-American, her chances of finding dates are even slimmer again according to OkCupid!

If you are a white male, you have the advantage of being in the male racial group that is contacted the most —across all age groups. One has to consider that I am dealing with a pool of men who have been in bad marriages, secondly, men are very drawn to me physically and they overreact. At least that has been my experience. So they come on strong and that reads as either needy, weird, cocky, etc. I tend to be very reserved, which they read as a challenge.

I try to date at least three men at a time which is why the number is so high. I have only been in a relationship with one and he turned out to be pathological.

So there you go. Makes Evan Marc Katz He Doesn T Want To Marry You very pessimistic about finding the one. Let go of that need for a while and enjoy yourself. Spend some time that way without pressure and expectations on yourself, and maybe you will feel recharged after a while. So which is more important to you. Having him in your life, or being married? Perhaps the criteria being used are not the best? But, e-mail with them?

Go out on a date?

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I have the same question. You could take the chance and maybe one of them would turn out to be into a LTR. You are so right. Its all about the chase. Then when they finally get you, they suddenly dont want to be in a relationship. Then they move on and leave you hanging. I count among guys who have wanted me a number of liars, narcissists, abusers, and men who wanted me before they really knew me because they were desperate… and it was not hard to see WHY they were desperate.