Exes Kiss For The First Time Since Their Breakup
I slept with my daughter's ex-boyfriend
27 Dec My sister asked me if I would mind if she went out on a date with my ex-boyfriend. I said it was fine, but now I don't feel fine. What's wrong with me? Why do I feel so confused and upset, even though I don't have any feelings left in that old relationship? We broke up 6 months ago! Do you have any advice for. 1 Jan The only problem is that my sister went out with him less than a year ago. Every time I tell someone who my boyfriend is, I get teased about taking my sister's ex. She doesn't mind, but everyone else thinks it is a horrible thing to do. The humor everyone is getting from this really gets to me. How can I stop the. Ok, my sister called me up after she got off work(she works with her dad, managing anything involving money, getting estimates, writing reciepts, etc. He has one of them little hicktown car repair shops, which my ex constantly is up there helping or just being a pain) and said "hey jess, u remember how.
I 'm a divorced woman in my early 40s and until recently I hadn't been with a man for more than a year. My daughter, who is 20, just finished a relationship a few weeks ago with a man in his 30s. She was absolutely heartbroken. During their time together, though, whenever he came to the house there was always some "chemistry" between me and him. Shortly after they separated he started texting me. We ended up meeting for a few casual drinks, and one thing led to another.
My mother did the same
I feel absolutely terrible about what I have done and I don't know what to do. I really like this man, but I don't want my daughter to hate me. In similar circumstances my mother did the same 11 years ago. Our relationship has never recovered. I am a mother myself now and understand her selfishness and betrayal even less.
Your daughter will never forgive you and it is supremely unlikely that you will have a future with her ex-boyfriend. This man is out of limits. You know what to do. If you can't even trust your own mother not to betray you, who can you trust? Don't ever speak to this man again, and don't ever tell your daughter what you did. This man has broken more info daughter's heart and made a fool of you. Cut off contact with him or you will lose your daughter's respect.
If she finds out what you have done, you will have some explaining to do anyway. In the meantime, have a think about why you fell for this creep. Not quite over your divorce? Theoretically, you have not done anything wrong. If you had made love with the ex-boyfriend of a stranger rather than of your daughter, there would be no problem.
You don't indicate whether this was a one-night stand or if you intend the relationship with this man to continue. If it were a one-off, I think you should keep quiet, so that your daughter knows nothing about My Sister Hookup My Ex Boyfriend.
But if the relationship is serious, then obviously she must be told and realistically you should expect that she will be hurt and angry, at least for a while. You say that you haven't been with a man for more than a year, which suggests that you feel lonely. Why not join some groups or classes, or even try online dating as a way to meet other people with similar interests? You could even try to get your newly single daughter involved. I hope in this way you are able to find another fulfilling relationship, without destroying the bond with your daughter.
Can you honestly imagine a family Christmas in six months' time where she happily waves you and this man off to bed together? Ditch this man before your daughter finds out and decide on whether or not you're going to confess depending on whether you think he'll tell her at some point.
I'm sorry, I truly am, but I think we both knew that we couldn't last forever. I see things I've seen before, but definitely should not be seeing now. But after the emotional parts it felt like when we were together, he was always hugging me and unexpectedly slapping my butt, playing with my hair, everything he did the same as he did when we dated.
You can then sit and wait for someone else who isn't going out with your daughter to come along or take this as a sign that you need to try dating. Or you can aim for a committed, long-term relationship with your daughter's ex and she'll hate you. CE, via email If you would like to respond to this week's problem, please post your comment below. When leaving a message on this page, please be sensitive to the fact that you are responding to a real person in the grip of a real-life dilemma, who wrote to Private My Sister Hookup My Ex Boyfriend asking for help, and may well view your comments here.
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My mother did the same In similar circumstances my mother did the same 11 years ago. A, London Don't ever tell If you can't even trust your own mother not to betray you, who can you trust? JS, via email Cut off contact This man has broken your daughter's heart and made a fool of you.
CS, Crewe Tell her the truth Theoretically, you have not done anything wrong.
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HN, London Are you lonely? NG, London Get out there and start dating again Can you honestly imagine a family Christmas in six months' time where she happily waves you and this man off to bed together?
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